There are so many books, poems, and movies in this world on the subject of love it is almost overwhelming. Some aspects of love are universal and others are different for everybody. Think about how many sayings you know regarding love and then examine if they truly apply to your experiences…
•Love conquers all • All you need is love. – Beatles song • Where there is love there is life – Mahatma Gandhi • Love at first sight • Head over heals in love • It is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all • Love is blind • Love hurts • Never underestimate the power of love •
For me, some do and some don’t but I will forever be a hopeless romantic…at least I hope so. There are a few things I’ve learned along the way that have reshaped my view on love. The first is that romantic love involves so many beautiful and difficult emotions. Romantic love needs to have a balance of rationality and passion. Be honest with yourself, have you ever been in a relationship where you pushed somebody away because you either felt you didn’t deserve that kind of love or you were afraid of getting hurt because of how vulnerable love makes you?
From stories I’ve heard, books I’ve read, and personal experiences it seems like there are a lot of people who hold love at arm’s length. I completely understand protecting your heart but after a while the person that is trying to love you might run out of patience. So my unqualified advice is to give in and let that person think you are amazing, love you, and treat you as somebody truly special. Pay attention to what I’m not saying. I’m not saying to let somebody love you means you have to give up your body. I’m not saying to skip the part where this person earns your trust. And I’m not saying that you shouldn’t listen to your gut instinct about if this person is good for you and your life. If all the right things are in place and you are still holding back because of personal doubts about yourself or love…give it a chance. You will most likely get hurt but you will also experience that amazing thing people have continued to write about for centuries. If it doesn’t work out your friends will surround you with a different type of love and you will be okay.